Hey! So, if you were around Twitter Saturday afternoon, then you know that I was hanging out there in order to avoid the task of cleaning my bathroom. As pleasant as that eventually was, even more (actually) pleasant was a small conversation created by a question I kind of just tossed out there, basically wondering why Booth is sort of being vilified for being honest (‘very serious’ ‘as a heart attack’, etc) while Angela says, “You’ll die loveless and alone” and we all kind of chuckled.
Each person who replied was really on point, and helped me come to the conclusion that there was a flaw in my logic. The scenes can’t really be compared like that, as they were completely different. Though the same subject was being discussed, Angela was joking, and Booth was being very serious. But the residual effect of the conversation showed me that maybe it’s a good idea to provide a place where people can see both sides and kind of once and for all state their opinions and then move on.
Also, up front, I think we have to disqualify Hart Hanson’s recent statement that they didn’t intend for Booth to appear to be aware of Brennan’s look of confused pain at his admission. Do I believe Hart Hanson when he says that? Yes. Do I think it’s true that they didn’t want that? Yes. However, even if it’s believable, it’s not admissible. Right? The reality is that it is what it is. It’s a conversation between a sexy scientist and a sexy FBI agent, and we can’t change what it is. 🙂
I’m talking about this…
Also, I’m limiting this discussion to ONLY the scene between Booth and Brennan on the subject. I’m not including any ‘evidence’ from later in the episode where Brennan talks about this with Angela and Booth talks about it with Caroline and Sweets.
To keep it fair, I’m limiting each argument to only 350 words and exactly 350 words. Also, I’m not going to tell you which POV I really agree with. I’m (hopefully) just presenting two equal arguments. To get into the debating mood, I had to turn on some cocky music, and this time I chose Broken Bells. It always makes me want to get up in people’s faces with a little groove and be like “Now what, baby? Boom!” Yeah, be glad this is not a video blog! I’m sure you’re also glad to know that even when debating myself, I’m a total dork.
But enough about me, let’s get to it!
Yes, Booth was insensitive, and he acted incorrectly.
He’s the heart person. Brennan told him this in the pilot episode after he stood up for her with Cullen. This isn’t news to anyone. He’s the one who should have been able to push through the awkwardness of the reunion and be more sensitive to her. Was it bound to be a little awkward? Sure, probably. But he should have known that ahead of time and planned to really gauge her reactions. Whether or not Brennan has ever admitted it in the past, he HAS taken on the responsibility for taking care of her emotionally. “More than one kind of family”, “Everything Happens Eventually”, “Yeah, Bones…a miracle”, “Brain and Heart, Bones. Brain and Heart”, “You will (believe in love)…I promise”; quotes like that only scratch at the surface of examples of how he’s been the compass of her heart. And that’s not a love thing; that’s a partner thing, and that’s a friend thing. In Dentist in the Ditch, she expresses that she values his thinking system on love and emotions, and in Gamer in the Grease, she tells him that while she doesn’t always understand it, she can see that his ‘math’ (aka, logic system) works. Likewise, Booth has been SO private about his personal life in the past that it’s really not fair for him to just be like “Bam!” and sort of lay it all out there. He once got on Sweets’ case about the same type of thing. “Don’t you know that you can’t rush her?!?” When he sees that she might be uncomfortable, he should at least give her a reassuring smile or something and change the subject. He should reassert to her that no matter what happens in his personal life, ‘nothing’s going to change’ between them, as he promised in Fire in the Ice. We’ve been led to believe that Booth understands her better than anyone, even herself sometimes. And even if he has moved on and found someone else to love him for thirty, forty and fifty years, he still owes her the respect of understanding that it’s a touchy subject.
No, Booth was not insensitive, and he acted correctly.
He was just being honest with her, something Brennan claims that she values very highly. “Why are you being so secretive?” she has asked him in the past. Plus it’s important to remember that they were having a conversation. She asked him if it was serious; she was curious herself. It’s not that she tried to change the subject and he insisted on following her and telling her about it. Likewise, she reiterated his simile that heart attacks are serious, and so he replied, saying they were ‘very serious’. Though the subject matter isn’t what we want to hear, this tone of conversation honestly isn’t anything we haven’t seen between them before. Think back to the end of Girl in the Mask when Brennan challenges him and brings up the idea that love might not be worth it and asks him how he would feel if Parker died. It’s somewhat insensitive and Booth sort of flares up at her and tells her not to even talk about something like that. And he reiterates that love is worth it. And some viewers think that since this is season six, there should be no question between the two of them as to what the other is thinking, meaning that Booth should see the look on her face and KNOW that she has feelings for him, or at the very least, feelings of uncertainty about him dating someone else. Well, let me say this. Over the past two seasons, Brennan has dated Booth’s brother, Booth’s boss’s boss (though he asked her not to, as a friend) and told him she was not going to change for him. Booth doesn’t necessarily owe it to her to consider her romantic feelings toward him, even if he DID in fact suspect that she does have them. This is like in Dwarf in the Dirt, when he told GGW that Brennan doesn’t love him, that he’d KNOW if she loved him. We haven’t been led to believe that Booth would know if Brennan was honestly in love with him unless she said it from her own mouth.
But perhaps there’s a bigger issue at hand, and we’re over thinking this. Maybe it’s like we talked about already, that Hart Hanson will use any character in any way he sees fit in order to develop Brennan’s character. We’ve seen that before, that it seems like whenever Brennan has an emotional revelation, Booth is having some sort of lack of it. Like when she knocks on his door in Cinderella in the Cardboard and tells him she wants to believe in love, he kind of chokes. And likewise, in season five, in Tough Man in the Tender Chicken, Booth is feeling insecure, thereby allowing Brennan to have a moment of emotional confidence in encouraging him that he’s ‘still got it’. So maybe it’s still really all about Brennan.
Either way, let’s hash it out, and then let’s hug it out, because honestly, it’s ripping us apart, and I think we’ve kind of got to move on from it and see what happens.
Peace, Love & Bones
PS…I don’t really use foul language here at BT (or anywhere, really), so I’d appreciate it if you all would do the same while discussing this issue. Thanks!