Happy Sunday, BONES friends!
Here’s a fun fact; this is the 100th post on Bones Theory. Yay! So when I was thinking about what episode I wanted to choose a scene from, the 100th episode of BONES seemed like a natural choice. One thing I loved about doing the 100DaysofBones project was that I was watching each episode within the context of pretty much every episode that had aired up to the 100th. There was this framework of canon that allowed for insights and new discussions, and I liked re-visiting a lot of the older episodes, ones I hadn’t seen for a long time. With the 100th episode, it aired on a Thursday, and I put up my thoughts on that Sunday, so…not a lot of time for reflection. I was interested to see what my thoughts would be now on this scene, after not having watched it for a few months. This sort of ‘contextual look’ is also why I’ve held off on doing episode reviews here on the Beginning in the End and season six episodes. They are just too close; there hasn’t been enough time to really see everything in context. HH once said that he saw every finale and season opener as two parts of the same episode, or something like that. And I really liked that idea (another post for another day). My plan is to wait until right before season seven (there’s gotta be…come on, there’s gotta be!) and then review the eps leading up to that premiere.
Whoo, okay…enough of that…let’s get back to this episode. Here’s a little history to get us started.
99 episodes of amazingness.
I mean, seriously. Do I really need to provide a history on what has led us to this scene? It’s impossible to describe. It just doesn’t seem to cut it to say something like “Booth and Brennan met, worked a case, kissed, fought and then after 13 months minus a week, Booth finally tracked her down by abusing his FBI power at the airport and having her detained. They became partners, worked numerous cases together, grew closer together, kissed under the mistletoe, worked more cases, grew closer and closer, saved each other’s lives, made each other crazy, grew closer and closer, and then…”
Well, then here we are…
Booth reveals that he’s the gambler and he feels like giving it a shot.
Brennan, for all of her sometimes cluelessness, knows exactly what he’s saying. This always kills me between the two of them. They both know. Maybe not about the science stuff or judicial stuff, but when it comes to the other one…sometimes there don’t even have to be words.
I feel this is proven when Brennan says, “You mean us?” and then proceeds to remind Booth that the FBI won’t let them work together.
Then Booth…oh, God Bless Booth really, because this is just so amazing. He tells her not to do that. That (not being able to work together) is no reason for them not to be incredibly happy with one another. And then he kisses her.
I was so proud of him in that moment. Here’s what I’ve been thinking lately. They both knew this was going to happen at some point. I can see Booth sort of waffling between moments, wondering if he’s crazy, seeing the way she smiles at him, and knowing he’s not crazy at all. Feeling like maybe he’s not good enough for her, but as pal Sleepless said, knowing that he doesn’t even care anymore because he just has to be with her, really with her. Just like we as fans were starting to get restless…okay, something’s gotta give…something has to happen, both of them were feeling that way. For awhile, they sort of tampered it down and kept up the status quo, but it was getting harder and harder to do that. But alongside all of that, he also understands, as he’s told us and Sweets that “you can’t rush her”.
So he puts together a plan. What will he do? Well, he thinks as he stares at his bedroom ceiling, thinking and dreaming and wondering, what has she responded to in the past? Though he might not want to admit it, he knows she likes kissing him. Please, we all know it. So it goes on his list. He figures, if he kisses her…she’ll see the truth. And he thinks, “Okay, I’ll set up a case…I’ll present so much evidence she won’t be able to say no.” He knows the way she grabs him close when they kiss. He knows the way she seems to smile against his lips and get a little stunned afterward. He recognizes it because their kisses always leave him stunned. I just totally imagine Booth counting on kissing her being a sure shot. There have probably been many other moments where he thought, “If I just kissed her… right now… it would be so amazing; it would be perfect.” Am I the only one who thinks this?
And that’s what sort of breaks my heart about this. Don’t you sometimes feel as if Booth was already sort of planning on her saying no?
When she does…
…she says that she’s not the one who needs protecting. “Protecting? From WHAT?”, Booth asks. He needs protecting…from her, Brennan tells him. She doesn’t have his kind of open heart. For all of this time that Booth has been building his case, she’s been building hers for exactly why she isn’t good enough for him. Some people blame Sweets for this moment, that it sort of came to a head because he challenged Booth to be the gambler.
Yeah, that was probably a bad move. But to sort of suggest that Sweets orchestrated this…I don’t think that’s accurate. What we’re seeing here, this is the culmination of 1,000,000 moments…not just one Sweets session about a book. Does that make sense? Blaming Sweets is sort of like giving him too much credit, in my opinion.
But moving on,
“Just give it a chance,” is all Booth is asking for.
They are just not listening to one another. Booth isn’t saying he wants to get married. Maybe he does, who knows, but he’s saying… “just give it a chance. We’ll figure it out. We’ve figured out a ton of other things, and it works for us. Just…give it a chance!”
But I just don’t know what Brennan is hearing from him. I feel like she’s hearing something else. And maybe she knows him better than we do. Maybe she sees/hears past his offer to have it be whatever it could be and knows that he wants the whole package, and maybe she’s right.
Either way, she repeats his definition of insanity back to him, telling him that doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome is crazy.
Booth says, “Let’s go for a different outcome. Hear me out, okay?” And then…it’s evidence time. He knows what she needs. Evidence. Laid out line upon line. He mentions couples who have been in love for 30,40,50 years…how it’s always the guy who knew.
If he’d said, “I felt in my heart you were the one,” she would have dismissed it as emotional irrationality. And he knew that…so what does he do? He frames it up in her language…knowing. He provides evidence, outside sources and intimate examples. It’s interesting to me that he says “in love”, and I just noticed that this time around. I know there is some debate on whether Brennan really understood what he was offering, on account of the fact that he never said, “I’m in love with you.” But I think, when he says “in love”, “it’s always the guy who knew,” and “I knew”, well, that’s clear to me. He’s talking about love, and she knows.
She says his evidence is anecdotal. Booth reiterates that it’s not just past experience. “Bones, I’m that guy. I know.”
It’s not that all those years (years!) ago, he knew, but has slowly been swayed differently. He knows. Right at that moment, he’s in love with her, and he wants to be with her. He knows he’s the guy for her. I love this, because Booth, who tries so hard in his life to do the right thing, is kind of going out on a limb and taking a chance. For all of Brennan’s hesitance to step outside of her comfort zone, Booth is the same way. With Cam, things were pretty easy for him relationship wise. Sure, he loved Rebecca, but it was his sense of honor and duty that led him to propose when she became pregnant with Parker.
This confession of love, it’s not duty or honor. It’s just Booth. One man and one woman. It’s not a partner thing, as he dismissed before that. And can I just say again how awesome that was? Once and for all he just told the truth. Not, “we’re just partners” or whatever… but the truth, that their partnership and work for the FBI is no reason not to be together. Brennan doesn’t refute that part of his argument, which proves to me that she knows that’s true also.
And she says she can’t change. She’s not a gambler; she can’t change; she doesn’t know how.
And right there…Booth is stuck in a conundrum he can’t solve. How do you argue a rational person’s irrationalities? She’s not seeing the truth, but she doesn’t see it that way, and there’s nothing he can do about it. His pre-established arguments…his evidence if you will, kissing her, providing her with the facts of his knowledge, expressing his desire…none of that worked. He has no choice but to accept what she’s saying.
This look from him, I don’t know how to describe it. Defeat? Resolution? Confirmation that what he knew (he wasn’t good enough) was true (in his mind)? Whatever he’s feeling, Brennan senses it. “Please don’t look so sad,” she begs.
This kills me. There’s a flaw in her reasoning, as she might say. She doesn’t have an open heart?
Why is she crying? Why isn’t she saying she doesn’t care about him? Why is she in tune to his emotions and expressions?
But again…what is Booth supposed to do? I wonder if he sort of knows that if she could love anyone, it would be him.
I know there is more to this episode, but I think this is a good place to call it quits. Once Booth pulls back and they talk about continuing to work together and Booth talks about moving on…that’s sort of a different scene, and I don’t want to talk about that right now.
What do you think? What did I miss?
Peace, Love & Bones,