Good morning! Happy BONESday to you!
Here’s a fun fact; over the course of this week, we’ve hit over 3,000 comments here at Bones Theory. That is awesome! Seriously, thank you, thank you, thank you to each one who comes around here and reads and comments. We are chugging right along in our “Post-a-day 2011” challenge from WordPress, and I am loving it. BT started exactly seven months ago (on July 3rd, with a post that received six comments! “From Tessa to Hacker: How B&B Have Shared the Same Relationship Track“), and it’s been a great, great time ever since.
One thing I’ve been noticing since last summer is the shift in general public opinion toward Booth. This was occurring even before season six started, and I’ve made my opinions clear on that (Booth Has Not Changed, November 8, 2010), but lately, I’ve been thinking more and more about this. Not about whether or not he’s changed; I still feel pretty strongly about that…but more about this idea that if he hasn’t changed…then something else has. And what is that thing? I am not sure, exactly. Yet…the reality is there. People don’t love Booth as much.
So I’m wondering…why is Booth only attractive on our terms? I don’t necessarily mean sexy when I say attractive, though I suppose that can be included.
Is love for Booth contingent upon Brennan? Specifically…if Booth is not gaga for Brennan 24/7…is he less attractive to us? And why? Have we been programmed for this from the beginning?
Maybe it goes back to our own individual reasons for loving Booth in the first place. What are/were yours? I’ve said before that I certainly liked Booth a lot, for several reasons, but I fell in love…LOVE…in Boy in the Shroud, when he was so kind as he escorted Alex away from his sister Kelly. I loved Booth for his compassion. And his shoulders. Hahaha. It’s true!
But…seriously, now…are we judging Booth based on what WE want for/from him? If he was flirty in the past (with Felicia or Rebecca or Perotta or that girl at the gym or…whomever), I would usually narrow my eyes and wonder why he was being flirty. If he was flirty with Brennan…
…well, then I would smile for days and feel like all was right with the world. But is that discrepancy Booth’s fault or my fault?
If he was sort of prudish (ahem, gentlemanly!) or bad at relationships before (Tessa, in my opinion), that was okay, because he was vulnerable and we loved him. If he is over anxious about clean sheets or quick to deny lots of things nowadays…why aren’t we still loving him for his vulnerability?
If he hasn’t changed, then why have we? I’m asking all of us here… Why does his world have to be centered around Brennan in order for it to be valid?
Don’t get me wrong…I want ‘single life shared’ and “we’re the center” and “someone for everyone” and all of that…I really, really do. I’m not championing Booth with Hannah for even a millisecond. And honestly, I’m not at the point where all of this will be worth it. We’re not at the end of this storyline, so I can’t say for sure; the point is a single great episode (Bullet in the Brain) does not cover a multitude of illuminations, if you catch my drift. Haha…
So we’ll see! But meanwhile, there’s Booth…
What do you think? Is it true? We find Booth attractive when he does what we want? We find him admirable or loyal or great when he is admirable, loyal and great toward people we like? Booth has never really been perfect, and we’ve liked him for that.
Why now not so much? Is it more because we feel fear? I admitted that to you when I talked about Hannah before (Why I’m Nervous; Why I Shouldn’t Be) . I don’t want Booth with Hannah because she’s tall, blond and thin and I’m none of those things. Right? But that’s not Booth’s issue…that’s my issue.
Obviously, there are layers here.
1. Booth’s character-straight up.
2. The understanding that Booth is a character written by other people who are responsible for his actions.
3. Our reactions to both of those things.
For the sake of this argument, I’m mostly working with 1 and 3. Booth is a ‘person’ and I react to that person. But let’s talk 2 for a moment. Has anything changed in the way Booth as a character is being written…let’s say in the past 12 months. Devil in the Details aired February 3rd, 2010, so that’s one year ago today. How much has changed in his characterization, at the root level? What do we expect from Booth? What do we NEED from him?
And let me ask you this:
What if we flip our BONES-Worldview around. I mean it. We’ve discussed before this idea that Brennan just might be the one who saves Booth when this entire story is all said and done. Maybe we should start believing that. If the show were the exact same, but it was called…I don’t know, something Booth-y, our worldviews would change…our frame of reference would be different. We would offer Booth the same sort of allowances based on his childhood, family life, innate personality, as we do for Brennan.
How would we feel about Booth then? How would we feel about Brennan? I’ve strayed a bit from my original idea, but the thought is still there. Do we have certain mindsets that allow Booth to be accepted when he acts certain ways? Is our love for him conditional? Ah…I think THAT is what I’ve been trying to say this entire time. Why is our love (or kindness, respect, affection, protection, loyalty etc) for him conditional though we expect unconditional love (or…kindness, respect, affection, protection, loyalty, etc…) FROM him toward Brennan? Am I the only one guilty of this?
What do you think? I’m curious for your thoughts! And actually…just for fun: if the show had been named after Booth…what would be the title? One word answers only! 🙂
Peace, Love & Bones,