Hello, my friends! I hope you are having one great day!
The other night on Twitter, I mentioned to some pals that I’m really, really itching to see Booth and Brennan fight. Not physically (though if they were to ever meet at the gym one night to wrestle…I would watch), but to just once and for all say what needs to be said, to actually yell at one another and both call each other on crap and admit some stuff, right?
And maybe that’s what’s got me on edge this season…I really don’t want B&B to just ignore everything that has happened. As nice as it is, I think I’ll weep if it all comes down to soft smiles over pie or something. I really will. I want a FIGHT! It’s like in high school, when one kid pushes another and the whole hallway erupts, shouting “FIGHT, FIGHT, FIGHT! WOO!” Haha. As a former teacher, I hated those fights. But as a BONES fan, I’m all about it.
As the evening continued, pals @morebones, @wellsbones and @choebe (and maybe others…sorry if I left anyone out) decided that once there is a B&B fight, the inevitable is…
…up against the wall, baby! I’m certainly not opposed to that. So, for fun, the little acronym FtW started: Fight then Wall. Then someone wanted to add “table” to the mix, as in “Fight, Table, Wall”– all the things we want to see in the B&B um…consummation of ‘feelings’. So, FTW was created, and today, Wednesday, is officially FTW day!
It seemed like the perfect opportunity to kick off the 5×500 project. I emailed 5 friends, asking them the same question, and they replied in 500 words or less. I can’t wait for you to hear what they say, and I know they can’t wait to hear what YOU have to say about it also!
So here’s the question:
Why haven’t Booth and Brennan really had a fight? An honest to goodness argument?
And…what would happen if they did?
All of us will have a slightly different opinion on this but for me there is one reason. One incredibly big reason. Well, two incredibly big reasons. (Changing my mind already…if I keep this short it’ll be a miracle! LOL).
Firstly there’s honesty…or a lack of honesty. Now you could argue Booth and Brennan tell each other everything (you’d be wrong, but you could 😉 ) but, personally I think they don’t. Do they share secrets? Yes. Do they share their past? Of course. But their feelings for one another? No. Even in the 100th and DitP they weren’t completely honest. They revealed their feelings but kept a part of themselves separate…the words I love you never left their mouths. Both Booth and Brennan revealed their feelings believing they would be rejected so they kept that part of them to themselves. Understandable of course, but still in that one moment where you’d think they’d bare all they…well, they flinched. (I couldn’t resist…I LOVE that line from Brennan to Michael Stires. She’s so…fierce! LOVE IT…sorry, back on point.) For Booth and Brennan to have the fight to end all fights they’d have to be brutally honest with both each other and themselves…and that’s not something I see happening any time soon.
The other reason (and my personal favourite) is the fact that if they have that fight they’ll pass the point of no return. It’ll be do or die for them…they’ll either have wild monkey sex and live happily ever after (have you guessed why it’s my favourite yet?!) or they will destroy any hope they have left of a romantic OR platonic relationship. One of the few good things about how Booth and Brennan revealed themselves (emotionally not physically…although naked Booth is always a plus!) is that they could retrieve their relationship from the wreckage. It was damaged and would never be the same again but still…it was salvageable.
Booth and Brennan bicker…it’s meaningless and (mostly) harmless. But a fight…an actual yelling in each others faces fight as they air everything that has ever gone unsaid between them. It could be catastrophic. OK, maybe i’m being a tad over dramatic but when I think of everything that has happened between them. The 100th, DitP, Hannah, Hacker, Brennan leaving, Booth leaving…for me, this will be the biggest risk we would see either take. And I’ll be honest. Right now, the Booth and Brennan we know and love…they aren’t brave enough (nor reckless enough!) to take that chance.
Personally, I would bow down at Hart Hanson’s feet it we were to see this fight. Can you imagine it? Minding your own business on a Thursday night, settling down to watch your favourite TV show and then wham! Booth and Brennan going at it in her office…the shooting range…his apartment…her apartment…i’m still talking about them fighting, but who knows where it might lead?! 😉
My immediate reaction was, “Fighting and arguing are totally different things. Booth and Brennan argue a lot. But they don’t fight.” In case I read too much into it, I turned to Merriam Webster for some guidance.
Argue (verb): To give evidence, consider the pros and cons, prove/try to prove or persuade by giving reasons.
It strikes me that B&B have already done all of the above. They argue. All the time.
Fight (verb): To attempt to prevent success or effectiveness, oppose development or passage, struggle to endure, gain/resolve by struggle.
Booth has argued his case with his own unique kind of evidence to prove to Brennan that real connections, that love exists. Booth’s arguments differ wildly from Brennan’s scientifically tested, anthropologically approved arguments, but they’ve had success in convincing the other about the validity of their own respective arguments. Brennan has accepted Booth’s premise on love first then the reaction. Booth has accepted, however begrudgingly, the need for squints and science to solve crimes. But in both cases, they argue over things they know to be true. It’s safer because they discuss and bicker over things based in their own knowledge.
But fighting entails something different altogether. You don’t fight over knowledge. You fight over what you feel. There have been clear signs of internal struggles and hints of brewing fights or fighting words, but then somehow, they managed to avoid a knock-down, drag-out fight and return to a status quo. A fight between Brennan and Booth would be deeply personal and require revelations of sentiments and passions that originate in the (metaphorical) heart, not in the brain, but they’ve become too skilled at keeping their feelings for one another under wraps.
The way I see it, Booth argued his evidence about his love to Brennan in the 100th, but he didn’t fight for her.
Brennan argued her newly dawned realizations to Booth in TDitPhoto, but she didn’t fight for him.
A fight between these two is necessary to let go of their bottled up emotions and let the other know the depth of their passion for one another. Booth has got to let Brennan know about his despair over her rejection and brief repudiation of their partnership. He’s got to tell her how much he’s come to love her. Brennan has got to tell Booth how much she regrets not giving them a chance and why exactly she went to Indonesia. She’s got to tell him how much she’s grown to love him. A fight won’t endanger their partnership; if they can endure everything they’ve endured up to this point, they can most certainly endure a fight. Once the words are shouted into the universe, there’d be no changies or take-backs. And in the end, even if they again somehow manage to say all the wrong things, hearing them shout at one another would be further proof, to me at least, of their enduring passion, love, and feelings for one another, and sigh, wouldn’t that be so cathartic?
I believe that though Booth has a short fuse when it comes to someone making him feel stupid, he really is afraid of his temper. He tries to control himself most of the time when it comes to Brennan.
He makes snide remarks, rolls his eyes, even raises his hands sometimes, as if he wants to shake her; but he leaves it at that.
His childhood was a nightmare, being the victim of child abuse. His father beat him and his brother, Jared, so Booth is aware that physical abuse is very dangerous and would probably die before he ever considered laying a hand on Brennan. Booth is a man of integrety and loves Brennan even though she doesn’t always give him the respect that he deserves. I am sure there are times he wishes that he could take her by the shoulders and shake some sense into her; but, he knows that she is very protective of herself and would probably hate Booth if he ever tried to do that.
In the first season, we heard often enough, that Brennan does not liked to be touched. Brennan is an expert in self-defense and can use weapons also. Booth knows that she is quite capable of protecting herself and thinks it is foolish when someone tries to cross the line with Brennan. Booth tries to sneak in Guy hugs in once in awhile; but, I think that is the limit of physical contact that Booth would consider with Brennan, at least for now. Booth is very protective of Brennan and admires her too much to every consider a physical confrontation.
Of course, I wouldn’t mind some passionate kisses between them. They are so beautiful.
They say the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so you’d think that in the 7 years they’ve been together our star-crossed duo would have had more than their share of fights to draw upon for future inspiration, right? But if memory serves me right, I can only think of two instances where the usually harmless but hot bickering turned ugly. So I’ll work with what I have, and give it a shot.
The first fight was in the flashback. It was ugly and pretty devastating; they didn’t see each other for close to a year. That the fight was seemingly over nothing yet managed to escalate to the level of, say, tear gas in a meth lab, is indicative of the level of UST between these two. She says he’s overbearing, he says she’s a snob, but we know what’s really going on. Talk about subtext! Translation: she’s afraid of his intense need for a deeper connection; he, blown away by the certainty that she’s “the one,” pushes way too hard and makes her retrench. But ultimately it comes as no surprise that it’s Booth who ends up breaking the stalemate and seeking her out again because, well, “he knew” and couldn’t just let her walk away. That he probably obsessed over her during their separation is evidenced by his going all-out to stage her arrest at the airport. Even after a year she’s still on his mind.
No. 2. Fast-forward to Con Man. Just as things are starting to look good, in struts Jared. Technically, the scene in the interrogation room isn’t a fight because the only one angry is Booth, but it still feels like a fight. It’s the one time we’ve seen Booth unable to control his anger towards the woman he’s usually so patient with. This was deeply personal though, her words leaving him shocked to the core. But unlike in their flashback argument where the operative word was withdrawal, Brennan actively seeks a solution for their problem without any retrenching. It’s she who now breaks the ice, who almost immediately reaches out. And just as quickly, he lets it go. This time, thank God, there’s very little down time between anger and harmony.
And the future? Since the events of the flashback we’ve witnessed B/B’s increased ability to be honest with each other, making it unlikely that we’d get another fight where the real issues aren’t more clearly spelled out. And much as I’d love it, I also don’t see wall-pinning in my crystal ball because anything worth fighting about will probably be too important for that kind of resolution. Unfortunately, with so much currently on the line any future fight will likely be extremely painful; still, I have no doubt that there will also be a quick reconciliation. No matter what, B/B will compromise because the deep love and respect they have for each other will make no issue insurmountable: not marriage, finance, family or faith. Let the bell ring!
Bickering is the very foundation of Booth and Brennan yet they have never had an all-out screaming match, despite years of intense situations and probably even more intense feelings for each other. The closest I can remember either of them came to very angry was Booth in “Player Under Pressure” when he felt Brennan was insulting him for being a jock. That has happened several times, actually…Booth being hurt by Brennan’s insensitivity.
Our Booth is very sensitive and especially when it comes to Brennan’s opinion of him. He is also a bit touchy about her dating other men, in particular those who factor largely in his world, also, like Jared and even Hacker. Booth seemed geared up a for a fight in “Night at the Bones Museum” when he came to Brennan and presented her angrily with the egg. If they hadn’t been interrupted, I think that could have escalated.
At this point in their relationship one of the the most intimate things that could happen between them would be a knockdown, drag out fight where they both just totally lost it with each other. There are so many years and layers of things unsaid, moments that slipped by, I think the ensuing argument would be incredibly passionate. I don’t know what the future holds, but I do think some kind of argument of this nature is in their near future and stands between them and their eventually.
This argument hasn’t taken place yet, I think, because of Brennan. Her emotions are very powerful but frightening to her and she keeps them so closely guarded that I don’t even know if she is conscious of how strong they are in relation to Booth. We saw a little evidence of that in the “Pain in the Heart”, which, while not as in depth as I would have liked, definitely showed us how deeply she feels for Booth. We have seen her become violent several times because of her feelings for Booth, both in PitH and in “Killer in the Concrete” when she punched the bounty hunter. Because of those glimpses I think Brennan would become very heated in a real fight with Booth. I would so love to see that.
Awesome! One question; five responses…the comments are open. Let’s hear what you think! Why HAVEN’T Booth and Brennan really had a big fight? Can you answer in 500 words or less (don’t worry…I won’t be counting). It’s harder than you might think!
Peace, Love (and please, oh please let it be loud and angry at least once!) & Bones