I must say, out of all of these characters, in a lot of ways, Jared is the one I blame least. However, the idea of Jared, and what happens in his wake? Well, it always just takes Booth’s character up a notch, and that ALWAYS brings a new dynamic to B&B.
Jared ‘represents’ what Brennan wants and what Booth wants to go away. That will always bring tension.
Brennan wants Booth, and to another extent, she wants the permission to freely want Booth. Jared represented that in a way that was too good ‘on paper’, and she learned that the reality couldn’t be theorized. Yes, in theory, if she can’t be with Booth, the second best option becomes the best option. In any other scenario, that is the case. But in the scenario of Seeley Booth, she learned it was not best.
I don’t know how I feel about that whole thing, if only because it seems she was and can still be distracted by ‘shiny baubles’ (her words, not mine), though she promised she wouldn’t be. Thoughts from you? Her apology/toast at Booth’s birthday party still stings, in my opinion, but that Booth understands what she means and is fine with it goes a long way in my book toward wanting to accept what she says.
That Brennan tells Jared off in Hero in the Hold is some consolation, but I still wish Booth could be more aware of that.
For Booth, Jared represents what he can’t escape…which is his overbearing need to protect, even if it means absorbing pain in order to do so. There’s the physical reality of his childhood, and Jared suggests Booth was like a dad who protected him from their real dad. But that carries over into the present, where Booth will cover up for Jared, and it also carries over into his relationship with Brennan.
I think at this point in the series, it seems easy to forget that Booth very deliberately protected Brennan from his feelings for her. Sweets commented on that to Dr. Wyatt, who agreed, and I also agree. That was painful to Booth, who I think felt that if he waited long enough, it would be worth it.
When Jared announces his engagement, it puts Booth on edge on all cylinders. Despite what DB said, again, I think the idea of Jared getting his act together and finding what seems like the perfect love would be enough for Booth to be frustrated. But since he doesn’t have way to express that frustration with his own love life, he processes it as over-protection. And considering he tended to be overprotective anyway, it just is amplified.
And that’s where Brennan steps in, using his own words and arguments against Booth to make him see that even if he is right, there is no pleasure in being so. She helps him see that the grace he suggested she show to Max should be shown toward Jared (and Padme).
And it leads Brennan to another toast—this one I’m more fond of. She considers that love is a choice, a commitment, and that the feelings involved are a result of that choice. This is another moment that makes me have whiplash in regards to the 100th, but the more I consider it, the more I can wrap my mind around it. I think for Brennan, being able to tell Booth that he’d convinced her about love was a prize—that is, it was almost a gift she was offering to him, that he’d helped her consider things in a new way.
For Booth (and for me, if I’m honest), I think the truth of him is that as much as he might want to believe that just the idea of her being open to the idea of love is enough, it’s not. He wants her love. He wants her to want him and love him and be open to the idea of love and him together.
And I think Jared sort of represents that he can’t have that, but that the possibility is there. And for Booth, possibility can be his biggest enemy. It’s what keeps him going (and us happy), but is also what keeps him up at nights wondering, and it’s what keeps him standing still and unable to move on. It’s sort of a trap, I guess.
Booth is a lot of things for many people, but he can’t allow himself to be those things for himself.
I’m getting off on another topic, so I’ll just close with this. Again, of all of these ones, Jared represents what ‘can be’ between B&B…the ability to have love and family in the actual sense. To overcome the past and find love and happiness.
Thoughts from you?
Peace, Love & Bones,