Brennan: Will you be able to remain BBFs?
Angela: BFFs. Best Friends Forever!
“Write about something you love.” Those were the magic words Sarah used when talking about writing a post here. It’s all about the love….and I love. Oh, yes. I love.
Whom do I love? I love Brennan. I am an unabashed Brennanite. I read episode reviews and summaries and comments with my flaming sword at hand, ready to strike out in defense of my Temperance. Don’t get me wrong – I’d offer to hold Booth’s beer while he’s in the bathtub any day, but I’m Dumble….ahem….I’m Brennan’s girl, through and through. I have a major girl crush on Brennan and have since “Pilot,” when she shut the door in the face of whats-his-name. Buy your own TV, dude.
I am a Brennanite in a Boother world.
There was a comment recently (sorry – I can’t remember by whom) that asked, “Would you like her in the real world?”
To which I offer in reply, what’s not to love about Brennan?
Of the three women in the lab (which definitely absolutely most positively does NOT include Daisy), Brennan would be my choice for besties.
Angela? BONES-world Angela is self-assured and confident. In the real world, pre-Hodgins Angela-types are flighty drama queens crying on your shoulder after every messy breakup. No thanks.
Cam? If she’s your bff, I would suggest you watch your back. The end justifies the means with Cam, from the sketchy presentation of evidence to falsifying college applications to strong-arming Booth into lying to her father. With friends like that, etc. etc. etc.
Brennan is the WYSIWYG friend. Want to know if those jeans make your butt look big? Ask Brennan. Should I finish this report for work or go out for drinks? Ask Brennan. Need straight-forward advice that you don’t want to hear, but really should hear? Ask Brennan.
But not only do I love Brennan, I like Brennan.
I like that Brennan takes pride in her accomplishments without simpering, false modesty. Temperance Brennan plays the dumb, helpless female for no man, not even Seeley Booth. And to his credit, Booth seems to be as proud of her brilliance as he is sometimes irritated by her use of it.
In the same vein, I like that Brennan knows what she doesn’t know, and that she is aware of her own shortcomings. She has taken a lot of guff for rejecting Booth’s “30-40-50 years” but she was absolutely right to make that choice. She wasn’t ready for that kind of relationship. She was not capable, at that point, of the kind of relationship Booth wants and needs. In a way, she was protecting Booth from herself and she doesn’t get the credit she should for being strong enough to say no, FOR Booth.
And along that subject line, I absolutely love that Brennan approaches relationships, and love, on her terms. I feel that sometimes it is suggested that Brennan was abandoned by her parents at a much younger age than 15, but even at that age and for those few years before she was of legal age, the experience obviously (duh) scarred her. She responded to the trauma by turning inward and cultivating that outer shell that everyone talks about, but it’s also apparent those reserved qualities were there before her parents and brother disappeared. The “Marco/Polo” anecdote is telling – she didn’t have any friends of her own in school and that small contact with Russ brought her comfort.
Given her history and the lack of affection and love in her life, Brennan could be a completely different person. She could have become one of those women who rush from man to man to man, trying to fill the holes in her life. She didn’t.
Brennan doesn’t get wrapped up in a relationship at her own expense, or allow herself to be used once she’s aware of it. She has been susceptible to a pretty face (Jared and the old boyfriend/professor in “The Girl in the Fridge” come immediately to mind), but faced with evidence that something shady is happening, she doesn’t make excuses for the guy so that she can justify keeping him in her life. She acknowledges her mistakes and moves on. You don’t get a second chance to make a fool of Temperance Brennan.
To my recollection, Brennan has never used the words “I love you” in a romantic way with a man. Yes, she is guarded and standoffish and reserved, and very few people are allowed to know the truth of Brennan. She has been wounded and the walls she surrounds herself with are her protection against being vulnerable again. I, personally, respect that attitude and that control.
I am one of those who believe this series, BONES, is Brennan’s story. In a way, if you want a relationship with Brennan, you have to earn it. You have to earn her respect and her affection and her trust. You have to breach the walls she lives behind. The slow pace of the B&B relationship, while maddening and frustrating, is necessary because Brennan needs proof that Booth is worth the risk. Nearing the end of six years later, I think she is finally getting there.
What do you think? What’s your favorite quality of Brennan’s? And if you had to choose one Jeffersonian lady as your BFF (or BBF, “Bones Best Friend”), which would it be? Let’s discuss! It’s BONES day!