I just read something this morning that got my brain to thinking about the future for our intrepid crime-fighting duo. It posed the question; does a person’s upbringing affect them morally? As in, if you had an upbringing that was rougher, maybe a bit traumatic, would that lend yourself to a strong sense of morality in your adult life, over perhaps someone who had a “normal” or “traditional” upbringing, who might take that for granted?
I at first thought about my own family, as my father had a more Booth-y upbringing. He had it pretty rough. But he put himself through school, started his own family, and had treated my siblings and me wonderfully. It’s like Booth with Parker; he wanted us to have such a different experience than he had had growing up. I hurt for his hurt, but I got to have such a wonderful upbringing myself. Would my dad have acted this way regardless of his upbringing? Or did his more difficult one drive him to be different, making him an even better father?
Of course, thanks to my new friends here at Bones Theory, my mind immediately attached this idea to Booth and Brennan. Yes, they had elements of “normalcy”, Booth had Pops, and Brennan had her parents for years before foster care, but there is no question that their traumatic periods deeply affected them, i.e. gave them scars on their backs. I’m thinking of course, of Mayhem on a Cross, in which we get two very emotional confessions. Brennan, confessing her breaking of a dish led her foster parents to lock her in a trunk. Booth, not giving too many details, let us know he seriously contemplated suicide as a young man.
I think we’ve seen plenty of instances as to how these traumas have affected B&B. Though they’ve both achieved great success in their careers, successful relationships were still elusive for the both of them. Booth, while he wants to have that traditional home, filled with love, has been unsuccessful, and as Sweets so helpfully pointed out, Booth isn’t getting any younger. Rebecca, Tessa, Cam, Hannah…add to that his emotional scene after Hannah’s rejection; it’s him crying out, wondering what is wrong with him that no one wants what he has to offer? Truly heart crushing, and to me shows that he is still deeply affected by his past, it colors everything he does and who he is to this day.
Brennan also has seen little relationship success. She’s had a series of surface relationships, like when she dated the two men at the same time, and remained free from deep emotional entanglements. She’s used science to dismiss the idea of love. She has mentioned on many occasions that she’s meant to be alone, and it’s a good thing she prefers to be alone. Brennan’s crushed my heart many times with statements like these. In Hole in the Heart, we see that she is still plagued by this as she attaches Vincent’s last words to her as being a cold person.
Both Booth and Brennan both have scars, deep ones, and it has affected their own partnership as well as the other relationships in their lives.
So I guess my questions are: Brennan and Booth…do their respective upbringings affect them forming a future family and how? How much is nature and how much is nurture….how much does their past trauma affect them now, and how will it affect them in the future? Do they understand each other more fully because of mutual “scars on their backs”? Will this draw them together in a family unit or end up tearing them apart?