Hello, Bones Theory people!
So, this post has been festering in my mind for a few weeks, spurred on by comments I’ve seen on some episode reviews I’ve done, and here and there on the internet. After The Sense in the Sacrifice, we discussed whether Booth’s reaction and actions were justified, and I mentioned that I didn’t FEEL as if they were, etc. And at the end of The Lady on the List, I liked Booth’s “I love every day” line, but I saw others who were like “Get serious about this, dude!” It just seems/seemed like Brennan is doing all the heavy lifting in the romance department in this relationship. And when she says something, he just stares at her, sort of smiles, and barely says anything!
And a voice in my head would say things like “This is the ‘making love speech’ guy; this is the guy who knew, right from the beginning–the guy who has done several romantic things in the past…stuff that on the surface doesn’t seem like that big of a deal, but we all knew better– Jasper, the Christmas tree, the dine and dash, the hand-hold at the diner, the lingerie, and so on and so forth…” Where is that guy?! And seriously, what kind of proposal was that?!?!?! ( I know, I know…he was just reinstating Brennan’s proposal, etc., but still!)
And then ANOTHER voice in my head (hence, the “I said/ I said”) would respond with “Did you see his face, though?” I’m talking about the look on his face when Brennan told him she was pregnant, when she proposed, when she believed in him, when he asked her again, and ultimately when she was walking down the aisle. It’s there…in his eyes. He’s just so grateful that he can’t process anything else, let alone say or do something!
So then another voice (how many voices are there, you ask? Well…don’t ask…) said “It’s not that he’s not romantic…I think he’s just shy about love.” Which made me blink a few times and think. I admit I have been out of the loop on a lot of Bones convos lately, so if this idea has been going around, let me just join in with those saying so (and feel free to quote yourselves/ give yourselves credit in the comments). But, for better or worse, I think that is sort of what is happening.
I think Booth is a little skittish, I guess. I also believe he would have been 100% fine with just living with Brennan for life. Getting married is the 110%, as he would say, much to Brennan’s annoyance 🙂
All of the things I mentioned before (and others, like Brainy Smurf, guy hugs, “There’s someone for everyone”, the ice skating, ahhhhhh, that!) were romantic, but they were more about flirting than love. I think. Obviously, I have a lot circling in my mind about it. I don’t know if shy and skittish are the right words…maybe it’s just that he DOES know what he’s good at, and sex and flirty romance are definitely at the tops of the list. But love is the real deal, and as we all know, it takes more from us than we sometimes feel comfortable with. And he has not had a good success rate with it.
Bottom line: I think that the reason Booth seems to sort of freeze up when Brennan makes romantic overtures (beyond that the writers are giving her most of the moments these days) is that he’s still in a little bit of shock that it’s really happening, in each of those moments. We know he is superstitious, and maybe he doesn’t want to jinx stuff by getting too excited. Or maybe he’s gotten more comfortable with himself and his own feelings and doesn’t feel the need to make it happen. His confidence is based on the stability of their relationship and not what he has to bring to it…if that makes sense.
I also think this is the first time his love has truly been reciprocated, which makes a big difference. He’s not striving. Not that he and Brennan don’t take it seriously…but there is a huge difference between two people being in a relationship where each person is giving half (or 2 100%s, however you look at it) vs. one person trying to make it happen and the other being cool with it just being a good time. It’s also possible that Booth has realized what Brennan really wants out of a relationship (sex, stability, someone to talk to… that is a lot of s words haha) and knows he doesn’t HAVE to be over-the-top romantic to woo her. I think that makes sense; it’s just different for some of us watching, because it seems different from the way he was before. But to my point above, about him being shy with the true kind of love, there were other times in the past where he would sort of freeze up as well.
Ultimately, I guess I would answer my own question by saying “yes”. I would certainly not be opposed to seeing a little more of the old Booth back at times, because I think all of the gifts and special moments were fun and sweet, and honestly because I loved his flirting and the way he teasingly would make Brennan feel special (just like I also enjoy her doing the same for him!). But at the same time, I love Booth’s current relaxed state, his self-assurance that he loves and is loved in return. I think the moment outside his office in Sense in the Sacrifice supports this theory, as well as the vows he shared during their wedding.
What do you think?